Hasnah

I got this from a friend:

“Anyone can become angry – that’s easy.  But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy,” taught Aristotle.  With all the stress and pressure in our lives, it is easy to lose our cool at the slightest irritation.  While we are rushing home from work at the end of another exhausting day, we scream at the slow driver in front of us who apparently has the time in the world.  While we shop at the grocery store, we get annoyed with the stock clerk who sends us to the wrong aisle when we are in search of the ingredients for tonight’s chicken rice. And while we are eating our dinner, we yell at the telemarketer who has the nerve to interrupt us in an attempt to sell us their latest wares.

The problem  with losing your temper on daily basis is that it becomes a habit.  And like most habits, a time arrives when it becomes second nature.  Personal relationships start unraveling, business partnerships begin to fall apart, and your credibility decreases as you become known as a “loose cannon.”  Effective people are consistent and, in many ways, predictable.  Tough times call for cool people, and they are always cool and calm when the pressure is on.  Keeping your cool in a moment of crisis can save you years of pain and anguish.  Hurtful words  unleashed in a single minute of anger have led to many a broken friendship.  Words are like arrows:  Once released, they are impossible to retrieve.  So choose yours with care.

An excellent way to control your temper is simply to count to 100 before you respond to someone who has irritated you.  Another strategy to use is what I call the “Three Gate Test.”  The ancient sages would only speak if the words they were about to utter passed three gates.  At the first gate, they asked themselves,”  “Are these words truthful?”  If so, the words could then pass on to the second gate.  At the second gate, the sages asked “Are these words necessary?”   If so, they would then pass on to the third gate, where they would ask, ”  Are these words kind?”  If so, then only would they leave their llips and be sent out into the world.

“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and help them become what they are capable of being,”  said the German poet Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.  These are wise words to live by.

Once upon a time, a friend told me that I am too dependable on people around me, to be more specific, my family heheheh… Yeah,,, that’s kind of true. Someone in the family do something for me. Don’t really know why, but they do it

Yes… I know it’s bad because I can’t depend on them forever and ever. As I said, bad habit die hard. It shows that I am at the weaker side. I can’t do anything that I am suppose to do…myself. I never notice about this, but it’s true.

The real thing that make me thinking is not my ‘weaker side’, but the treatment from people. If I am being treated or evaluated based on my weaker side, then I am be friended to my ‘job performance appraisal’. Because during the job performance appraisal, 95% operational excellent will be vanished if you do 5% mistakes. The 5% will be enchanted by your boss again and again until he/she makes you forget about 95%.

To change bad habits are very hard.. especially if they are already in your blood. Need help here pleaseeeeeeee